Well…….it’s been a while since I’ve posted. I don’t know……….just not seeing much humor in life right now. I have a close friend whose family is currently going through a troubled time with the death of someone they held dear. Life is really pretty terminal isn’t it? Decisions one makes can change their life and subsequently yours in an instant. One person’s solution is another person’s grief. So sad.
I went to a very powerful presentation this week on campus. The mother of an 8 year- old boy talked about how alive and vibrant her son was one minute and how she held him as he died in her arms the next minute. They were crossing the street after attending a musical concert that Owen’s sister had participated in at a local high school. Owen had been given a one dollar bill by his grandfather because Owen had been so good during the performance. As the family began crossing the street, Owen exclaimed to his mother that he wanted his dollar to go toward a treat for the family at McDonalds. It was March 2011 and Shamrock milkshakes were being offered again. Suddenly, a car came careening into the crosswalk where the family was crossing. A 17 year -old driver who was distracted by her cell phone at the time, hit Owen right in the middle of the crosswalk. That one decision to take her eyes off the road to focus on her cell phone while driving, forever changed the life of many……….mainly Owen, his family, and the driver herself. Owen died in his mother’s arms from a totally avoidable incident. Our young society is so connected to technology that they will make the determination to risk the lives of themselves and others to text and talk on cell phones while driving. Is that instant connectivity so important to endanger those in your path?
Life is a mangled composite of decisions……good, bad, stupid, wise, indifferent, every day, long-ranging choices. How do you teach your kids that most decisions they make will greatly affect the people they love? The mantra “It’s my life,” just doesn’t cut it. It’s not just your life. It’s our lives. I will be the one there for support when you make your decisions. I will be the one to cry with you, laugh with you, help carry your burdens, share your joys, and provide unconditional comfort and encouragement. My heart breaks when yours does. My eyes cry your tears. My soothe to your pain.
I wish that our schools and parents focused more on fostering good decision-making skills. Remember how we were taught to make the pros and cons list? Kids today won’t take the time to do that or think things through. Act and react without any forethought…….deal with the consequences later and……oh well.
Sorry to be such a Debbie Downer on this post. The root canal that I had yesterday has left me in a pissy state of mind.
On a positive note – I will be seeing the Hazelnut in less than 2 weeks! We are meeting Leah and Hazel at Boston Children’s Hospital on Oct. 25 where she will have an endoscopy and her G-tube removed and sutured. She will be put under anesthesia and kept most of the day at BCH. Hazel and Leah will come back to Hershey for a day or 2 and then Kevin, me, Hazel, and Leah will all fly back to Salt Lake City where Kevin and I will stay for a few days and enjoy the Nut while Leah works.
Oh – and I get my Invisalign braces on Monday……yay! Hopefully I will break out in pimples and get my period as well!!
Peace and love to you all.